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How to Improve Your Child's Self-Control

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The Role Model

When parents can't manage their own emotions and react angrily, or take their child's challenging behavior personally, the child gets a clear message that life is full of emergencies.  When modeling, parents should respond to others and in situations the way they wish their children to respond. So the most important thing you can do to help your child learn self-control is probably to regulate your own emotions so you can stay calm and compassionate with your child.


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Staying Calm

When you act calm in a calamitous situation, suddenly everything becomes a lot less scary for your child. Calmness will help your child feel safe instead of scared. When a child starts learning that staying calm will have better results, the better they’ll be able to respond to sudden changes, unwanted events and even arguments with their siblings.


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Play Games to Help Practice Self-control

For young kids, one of the best ways to learn something is through play. Through games, kids develop memory, cognitive flexibility, and control. To see how games helped, a series of game sessions was carried out with 5-year-olds. Researchers concluded that kids who played a variety of games showed remarkable improvements in self-regulation tests.


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Tell Them What They Can Do

Children will become angry or frustrated if they are constantly being told, “no.” When they have no control of their actions by being told to not do everything, they will have a harder time learning acceptable behavior. Instead of always telling them to stop doing something, tell them about what they can do as an alternative to an unwanted behavior. Instead of demanding they stop, tell them they are allowed. This will help your child learn how to behave and control themselves in different scenarios.


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Model Self-control

When you regulate your own emotions, you are modeling good behavior to young kids. So when you focus on problem-solving instead of punishment or getting angry, you can teach kids how to control their own emotions. When you explain calmly that you are angry or admit your own mistakes, children learn from you to do the same. This is because you are reframing the situation to focus on the positive.


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Monitor Access to Media

It is TV shows, cartoons, movies or advertisements, exposure to inappropriate media can adversely affect self-control in young kids. Exposing kids to positive models teaches them self-discipline. Limit TV time to no more than 1-2 hours a day.


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Tell stories

Storytelling is an effective way to develop your child’s concentration because it requires him/her to stay focused for a long period of time. However, all books are not created equal. Who teach them things and open up their world.


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